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Tell us about your loved one.
Jeff's life started out as one fun and exciting ride. As a newborn into adulthood, he always had to keep moving. He loved amusement park rides and other activities which increased his desire for excitement. He had sensitive feelings and has always shown a lot of compassion toward others. Jeff was diagnosed with ADHD in elementary school. His favorite times were going to family gatherings to play with his many cousins, camping, playing outside with his friends and doing things for his Grand-Mom Mary. Jeff had accomplished more than most of his friends at the time of his accidental death at the age of 23, even as an addict. He lost everything so fast once he started using heroin. Once realizing he could no longer sustain the life style along with his accelerating disease, his life diminished slowly before our eyes in just a couple of years.
Tell us about Jeffrey's struggle with addiction
In Jeff's early adolescence, when life started to get more complicated and the burdens of this world were placed on him, they began to weigh him down. This is when he started using alcohol and pain medication to help him deal with these burdens of life. He fell into the trap of addiction as a coping mechanism. As he became an adult, he was full blown into the disease of drug and alcohol addiction. He did things I never thought he would do. Jeff would tell me he paid his bills with the money he took from me and that the money didn't go for the drugs or alcohol. Think about that! The diseased brain working at its best! He struggled with getting clean in many venues. He never wanted me to hug him or tell him that I loved him, he thought of himself as a failure to his family. It was so wonderful to have the REAL Jeff back during the times he was clean and on the correct medications.
What made Jeffrey smile?
When Jeff was young, he would hang off of the bar bell while his older cousin would lift weights. There was Jeff going up and down hanging on the whole time. These moments will always be etched in the center of everyone's hearts of those who new him. Jeff loved to joke around with people to make them laugh and that is what made him smile. After meeting Jeff, the first thing one would say is "he is one hell of a funny guy". His life was all about fun. He particularly loved his niece Haylei. Sadley, he didn't get to meet his nephew, Liam, although Liam resembles Jeff in appearance and expression. When I am with my grandchildren, I feel Jeff's presence. During those times is when I am the happiest. Jeff truly loved his family, riding sports, skiing and the babes at the beach....for sure.
What do you miss most about Jeffrey?
Even though Jeff is not here on earth with us, I feel him near me every day. I miss being able to put my arms around him and having him enjoy everyday life with his family and friends as the years roll by. I miss seeing him grow as a mature adult, seeing him get married, holding his children in my arms and being able to love them. On January 22nd 2008, when Jeff left us, a large part of me died with him. Our family will never be the same.