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James Hissey

James Hissey

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One of the things I miss the most is Jimmy's music. He would often come to me with artists and songs to check out. I didn't realize at the time what a gift that was. I wish I still had his YouTube playlists. He lived with me (his Mom) so I also miss having him in my daily life. He was a really big help to me and made the most amazing dinners. His specialties were Chicken French, Chicken Parm, and Greek Turkey Meatloaf with tzatziki sauce.

Tell us about your loved one.

Jim loved music and often had his headphones on. Some of his favorites were Ben Howard, the Broods, and Gnarls Barkley, but there were so many that he loved. Jim was an avid sports fan and had played some football in Jr. High and High School. His favorite teams were Duke (basketball), the Dolphins (NFL), the Orioles (baseball) and Hendrick Motorsports, particularly Dale Jr. (NASCAR). He got me hooked on NASCAR and we would often watch the races together. We also took several trips together to see the races in person. Jimmy had a wickedly dark sense of humor that I found delightful, and that is another thing that I miss tremendously. He was always finding new comedians online to entertain him. Not often, but every now and then he would break out in this giggle that reminded me of when he was a little boy. It used to light up my world. Unlike me, Jim was an avid reader. He was super intelligent and liked books that challenged him. His favorite was "The Broom of the System" by David Foster Wallace. He also like Wallace's "The Pale King" and "Infinite Jest". Other favorites include "The Corrections" by Jonathan Franzen and "Catch-22" by Joseph Heller. Although I had gotten him a Kindle, he used that exclusively for movies, videos and music. He liked the feel of holding a book in his hand and turning the pages.

Tell us about James' struggle with addiction

Jim struggled with addiction for many years, beginning with pot and alcohol in high school. He also suffered from depression and anxiety and by his late teen age years it consumed him. He tried many inpatient and outpatient treatment programs, but he was only able to remain clean for short times. Believing I needed to help Jim "reach bottom", I kicked him out of the house when he was 22 and that is one of my biggest regrets. Before that, he used other drugs but had never used heroin. Now I believe that individuals suffering from mental illness and drug addiction are precariously close to the bottom at all times. The true definition of "tough love" is remaining loving, even when it's tough. Read more about my story at http://jimmyboy.us

What made James smile?

He had a dark, sarcastic sense of humor and could always make me laugh. The things that made him smile and laugh were comediennes, satire, and the ironies of life.

What do you miss most about James?

One of the things I miss the most is Jimmy's music. He would often come to me with artists and songs to check out. I didn't realize at the time what a gift that was. I wish I still had his YouTube playlists. He lived with me (his Mom) so I also miss having him in my daily life. He was a really big help to me and made the most amazing dinners. His specialties were Chicken French, Chicken Parm, and Greek Turkey Meatloaf with tzatziki sauce. The thing I miss the most is laughing with him If something really tickled him, he would break into a giggle that reminded me of when he was a happy little boy. I love him dearly, and miss him immensely. Always loved, never forgotten.

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